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Maybe…

If we all had to experience this, we might be less inclined to judge those that decide against having a child.

As a forewarning, it’s somewhat graphic, and it’s upsetting…at least, it was upsetting to me to have read.

Yes, there is birth control, and there are ways to avoid a pregnancy. Clearly. Some of those that are pro-life, it seems, would like to imagine life as an ideal. For instance, in an ideal world no woman would become pregnant without the desire to; birth control wouldn’t fail, women wouldn’t get raped, and all women and men would have had the same fully-disclosing and comprehensive education about sex that others had in order to prevent pregnancy. Unfortunately we don’t live in an ideal world. The article above is clearly demonstrative of that.

 

True heartbreak

I had always been under the impression that the most heartbreaking thing I have yet to experience in my lifetime was either relationships, or choosing not to have a child when the accidental opportunity arose (to be clear, experiencing the death of loved people is, I believe, in a completely different category than just heartbreak). I was wrong.

Today was the day for x-rays and a potential answer for what is now wrong with my best Sadie friend. I spent the drive to Carnation (technically, it’s Duvall, I guess) doing my best to muster a positive attitude. I reminded myself that when you take on the responsibility of loving a pet, you might have to be the one to eventually ferry them out of the world. I reminded myself that many things are treatable nowadays, even for animals. I reminded myself that sometimes things can seem really serious at first, but may turn out to be something small or easily corrected. I reminded myself that my Dad was going to meet me there to be with me and the Sadie. I thought about all these things and actually was successful in changing my outlook prior to getting to the vet.

I was painfully early, and as it turned out so was my Dad. They weighed her first, and despite the fact that she seems more bony than ever (despite the gobs of food that I feed her daily in an attempt to increase her weight) she has gained weight. That made me even more hopeful. They escorted us to a room, and being that we were painfully early we waited there for at least an hour before the vet came in to see her. While waiting, my Dad saw how hard it had become for her to get up, he had to listen to me tell the assistant all the symptoms of what I was seeing now…and he got upset. She isn’t even his dog and it made him teary to see what she was going through. On a side note: this is part of what I love about my entire family…we truly care about the things that other family members care about.

Finally the vet came in and took a look at her; he hypothesized that the weight she has at this time was water weight which is apparently indicative of a tumor. I actually was holding it mostly together until he said that word…tumor. Then I lost it…and my Dad lost it a little more. The vet also mentioned that what was going on with her is that she is losing muscle mass, which is why it is so hard for her to get up. Apparently if there is a tumor her body would be using up whatever she ate so fast, regardless of how much she was eating, that it would also move on to her muscles. Also, tumors can apparently grow so quickly that even though she had x-rays not even a month ago…one could have developed in that short time. When it came time to do x-rays with her to see if a tumor was visible, the vet actually picked her up and carried her into the back (this reminded me of why I drive an hour to see this particular vet).

We mostly waited in silence for the vet to bring Sadie girl back, and then to wait for the results. And I did my best to cuddle her on the linoleum floor that she couldn’t get up from. It was pretty awful.

Interestingly though, when he brought the x-rays back, he asked how much, exactly, she’d had to eat recently. I mentioned that my neighbor had her last night and knowing that she’s having weight issues, fed her generously…and that she’d also had breakfast. He showed us the x-rays and what we saw was some ribs, and what looked like a whole lot of food. Which is good…but also bad. All that food caused the results to be inconclusive; he couldn’t tell anything really. What I have to do now is avoid feeding her after about 2pm tomorrow and then take her back on Monday afternoon. This also, is good and bad. Good in that, I still have time to hope that it is something less serious than a tumor…bad, in that, if that’s what it is, it just prolongs the “dealing with it for real” moment. Also bad because I know that she’s going to be painfully hungry tomorrow evening.

But then I came home and did my own research online. I found something called cushings disease, which can manifest itself by increased water consumption, increased appetite, abdomninal enlargement (the “water weight”), and hair loss/thin skin. Cushings disease has something to do with the natural steroid-like chemicals in a dog’s body and therefore, if a dog is on steroids for something else it seems reasonable that a dog might develop this as a result. Maybe. I don’t know. All I know is that this is significantly less serious than a tumor.

There are two things that I know after today:

  1. My family is so wonderful. Today my Dad sat at the vet with me for hours, so patiently, just to be there and be supportive. He even cried with me. I’m so lucky for the people that care about me (and that care about my dogs even).
  2. Little Lola knows that something is wrong. She is never more than a millimeter away from Sadie recently.

It is certainly embarrassing to admit…

But I will do so here. Prior to today I had never attended a caucus. I label it as embarrasing because I feel that anyone that actually cares should be at them. I like to think of myself as someone who cares…and have for a while, so it’s silly that I had yet to attend one. I had planned to be at this one for sure.

Unfortunately, it seemed that Obama was overwhelmingly favored in my immediate district (well, and apparently he’s generally favored in the entire state). And no, I’m not just voting for her because she’s a woman. Obama is a powerful speaker…he gets to people, and people respond to that. But between the two of them, she has more experience, she already knows from inside out how D.C. works.

What I actually enjoyed the most about it, is that I sat there with my neighbors that were all within a few blocks of me, talking about all this. I’m part of a community, and today I got to interact with the community members that actually care. Not to mention, I met the neighbors that live in the house right in front of me. One of them was chosen by us for a delegate to go on. And I’m pretty sure that I’m going to go along for the ride with them just to see what happens. (I offered to be a delegate but we could only choose one-we were the minority in our district-and she was way more experienced so I deferred to her).

I had a really good time today.   

South Dakota School Stands Up

I found this in the melee of online searches for my social psych assignment. Anti-Abortion Activists Sue Rapid City School.

Apparently they are boo-hooing about not being allowed in to spread their agenda.

School policy states that all nonprofit groups can use school buildings for educational or charitable events as long as the events don’t conflict with established policies or laws, according to the Daily Women’s Health Policy Report. However, school policy also prohibits the use of school buildings for political purposes. (emphasis is mine) 

Apparently they feel that policies don’t apply to them.

Carlson claims that he requested to use the middle school auditorium on several occasions throughout the past three years, but each time his requests were denied. According to the Associated Press, the school denied Carlson’s request due to the controversial nature of his anti-abortion group.

I say “A” for effort. :)

Participating Blogs

Feministe: Why I’m Pro-Choice

Pandagon: Blogging For Choice and Beyond Choice

Blogher: Today Is Blog For Choice Day 2007

Inside The Box: Blogging For Choice: Elizabeth May, abortion rights, and Why I’m Pro-Choice

Aimee: I Blog For Choice

All Girl Army: Full Spectrum Choice

Alas! A Blog: I’m Pro-Choice Because…

I’m Not A Feminist, But…: Blogging For Choice

Libby’s World: Blog For Choice

That’s just a few. To see the rest of them there’s a list here.

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